All people want to thrive. Understand and practice two simple - but not easy - tools to make thrive probable.
Most of us enter feedback with a goal to give someone advice, information, or an assessment of a behavior. One person in a position of power – I know/have something you do not. Even if it is just an opinion or an idea about their blind spot – not many people liked to be surprised. This makes the relationship off balance at the start and people get defensive. They are already one down.
When we are feeling picked on, called out, or surprised, response patterns get triggered in our body. We then revert to our habits of thought, mood, and action. When we react, our brain goes on autopilot. Effectively cutting off access to our pre-frontal cortex – the place where we make logical decisions and take thoughtful action. We close our mind. This is a terrible place to begin a learning process.
Find out how to start and finish with more “money in the emotional bank account” (Daniel Goleman) than when you began.
If you interact with people, this skill is a must. Following this process builds trust.
As a parent, it can help you be clear about what you are seeing or feeling – positive or negative – leading to a more productive and connected conversation and action with your child/ren.
As a business leader, it can help you name what is important in the conversation to produce more clarity and results from every conversation.
As a community leader, you can identify more easily the common needs or desires of all members leading to more cohesive group decisions.
The Mush Separator deepens connection. It strengthens relationships. That is why it is a foundational skill. A must for all people, especially people who desire sustainable change.