Foundations of Leadership Development: Deconstructive Feedback

Foundations of Leadership Development: Deconstructive Feedback

Most of us enter feedback with a goal to give someone advice, information, or an assessment of a behavior. One person in a position of power – I know/have something you do not. Even if it is just an opinion or an idea about their blind spot – not many people liked to be surprised. This makes the relationship off balance at the start and people get defensive. They are already one down.

When we are feeling picked on, called out, or surprised, response patterns get triggered in our body. We then revert to our habits of thought, mood, and action. When we react, our brain goes on autopilot. Effectively cutting off access to our pre-frontal cortex – the place where we make logical decisions and take thoughtful action. We close our mind. This is a terrible place to begin a learning process.

Find out how to start and finish with more “money in the emotional bank account” (Daniel Goleman) than when you began.

Foundations of Leadership Development: The Mush Separator

Foundations of Leadership Development: The Mush Separator

If you interact with people, this skill is a must. Following this process builds trust.

As a parent, it can help you be clear about what you are seeing or feeling – positive or negative – leading to a more productive and connected conversation and action with your child/ren.

As a business leader, it can help you name what is important in the conversation to produce more clarity and results from every conversation.

As a community leader, you can identify more easily the common needs or desires of all members leading to more cohesive group decisions.

The Mush Separator deepens connection. It strengthens relationships. That is why it is a foundational skill. A must for all people, especially people who desire sustainable change.

Being a Professional is about Presence

To become a professional, yes one needs to be on time and speak without using cuss words. Yet, what really defines a professional is not what they do, but how they be. Being requires us to understand our vision and how we will get there. Be aware that others have a vision too, and its is different than ours. And finally, understand how we contribute to our organization, family system, or community.

What is Somatics? And, what does it have to do with Leadership Coaching?

Somatics is the study and practice of the mind and body working together to optimize a human’s experience in and of life. The foundational premise in somatics is that the mind and body are interwoven, and change does not happen by simply working with the mind or body exclusively. It is through the interweaving of both that we produce sustainable change.